The Positivity Police like to ram their positivity down everyone’s throat. They’ll tell you that you need to be feeling and thinking 100% positive things 200% of the time.
It’s impossible. It’s fucking ridiculous. And when you can’t do it, they get to hold their spiritual superiority over you and make you feel like shit about it.
This is abuse wrapped in thin veil of Love and Light.
You are a human being full of complex wonderfully dirty emotions. Each of those emotions is meant to be felt, no matter how uncomfortable or ugly. They are meant to be experienced so we can change and grow. Experiencing them and admitting you have them doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you a normal person, just like the rest of us.
We need to unshackle ourselves from the chains we’ve allowed the Positivity Police to wrap around us. We need to stand in the shadows before we burst into flame, turn to ash, like vampires left chained out in the sun. We need to reclaim the dark parts of ourselves. Wrap those negative feelings in our arms, lick them and claim them as our own. Only then can we heal, transform and release them.
Dealing with your negative feelings isn’t the same as giving in to them. If something has made you feel a ‘negative’ feeling, instead of instantly pushing it away, take a moment to really understand why you are feeling it.
What needs to change so it won’t make you feel that way again?
What positive thing is that negative feeling waiting to be transformed into fuel for?
What old things are you holding onto that need releasing?
It’s ok to feel pissed, sad, jealous, or whatever. It’s how you react to those feelings that matters. You aren’t failing at life because you feel them. Take responsibility for those negative feelings. Own them, don’t let them own you.
If your Love and Light practices are making you feel like a loser, get rid of them and find ones that lift you up.
I’m all for positive thinking and shifting out of negative thoughts and feelings and quickly as possible, but if what you are doing isn’t coming from a place of love, it isn’t helpful. It has to be a place of real love, not bullshit disguised as love.
Any New Age/Spiritual/Religious/ Love & Light/What The Fuck Ever practice that uses fear, guilt or shame as tools of control is bullshit disguised as love.