Long weekends and spending too much time with too many people leave me feeling like a dead battery. Like the one my car had this weekend.
Being clairsentient makes it difficult for me to be around certain people, places or things.
Toss in a holiday weekend and a husband that is a social butterfly and I’m doomed to days of sleeping, headaches and struggling just to get out of bed.
Normally I don’t have to deal with draining people. I’m very protective of my space and have some very hermit like tendencies. Over the last 21 years of marriage, I’ve convinced him it’s better not to have people over to the house for any reason. Some people I can handle. Some people I don’t want anywhere near me or my kids. He has some problems with this because he likes everyone.
Having clear boundaries around people in my life makes me seem like a total bitch.
As women we are supposed to be open to everyone, make space for everyone, put everyone before ourselves. I don’t do that. People don’t like me. I’m totally OK with that. The only problem I have is my inability to explain things to my husband in a way that he understands that my boundaries are about my health and well being, not me just being a total asshole to people.
I’m not here to make people like me or to feel comfortable (not to be confused with giving comfort). Keeping my boundaries is very important, energetically, physically and emotionally. It’s important for all of us, not just those of us that are extra sensitive to such things.
I’m not perfect at dealing with people. I trust my intuition completely when it comes to people. If someone is giving me red flags, I will automatically set extra bounderies for them and make it clear they have no business being in my space. Total bitch, remember?
There are things that I need to do to recover from too much time being spent with my switch in the On position.
1. Limit human contact as much as possible. Even if it’s only for a 5 or 10 minutes at at time.
2. Get outside.
3. Take a long shower or bath.
4. Sit alone in the dark.
With each of these things it’s important to ground myself, connect with divine/universal energy to recharge and clear away any muck I might have picked up.
You might find other things that work better for you. Test out different things until you find what works for you.
My biggest regret is not explaining things well to my husband. That is something I need to work on. Part of having effective boundaries is helping the people around you know and understand them.
When you are clear on your boundaries it cuts down on misunderstands, feeling threatened and needing defend yourself. Which will fry your energy.
Clear maintained boundaries are good for you and the people around you.