WTF Did I Just Read is a regular-ish feature all about all the fuckery in romance & erotica fiction. I read this shit so you don’t have to.
There is a lot of biting going on in romance/erotica. Mainly in werewolf/vampire stories. It’s not what I would call ‘fun biting’ either. It’s a nip that brands the women in these stories as property of the men.
The idea of being owned as a piece of property is really disturbing to me and not at all romantic or sexy.
The women are usually forced into being bitten/claimed/owned by some life threatening or awful circumstance. She may agree to the biting, but it is a decision made under duress when she is given very little choice.
The men doing the biting are portrayed as the nice/good guy, doing all he can to save the damsel in distress. In many stories the events that lead to the biting are the result of his own actions.
His asshat or careless behavior has contributed to what is going on, but the woman is the paying the price. She is a pawn in whatever family/clan/gang/whatever bullshit he has going on.
These stories reinforce the patriarchal teachings that women are property of men, that we have no choices of our own, that we as ‘good girls’ must let the men handle things in whatever way they see fit.
We are props in their lives. Tools for them to use.
Sometimes, the women choose to be claimed in the heat of passion, usually without a full understanding of what being owned entails. She gives into her bodies desires and forgets to use her brain. We all know that when a hot guy is horny for you, no matter how big of a jerk he is, your body wants him and you have no choice but to go with it. Right?
I don’t know. I’ve never had some supernatural hottie try to bang me.
Really this is another sneaky way we are taught to not listen to our better judgment. If a man is good looking, how big of an asshole he is doesn’t matter. Maybe there is something ‘wrong’ with the woman. Like she is ‘curvy’. If you are anything other than the standard of perfection, you should be thankful that this totally fly jack wagon is paying any attention to you at all.
Fuck me. Who is writing this shit and why are we so eager to devour it?
Our idea of romantic and sexy is twisted. I’m not talking about people who love being bitten or the ones doing the biting during sex. The biting going on in these stories isn’t about pleasure. It’s about keeping women in their place.
It’s fantasy being used to keep us chained to a reality where women are disposable pieces of property.