Let’s mix a Love Potion without the sexist wank!

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Last year-ish Aphrodite started popping up for me everywhere.

She isn’t a goddess I normally work with.

At first I thought she was only bringing my attention to the patriarchal wank in the stories we have about her, but the more I listened the more I realized she was talking about more than her story.

I started writing about abusive themes in romance/erotica. I wondered how I could improve my fiction writing and stay out of those traps.

Outside of writing some steamy fiction, I don’t pay much attention to relationship work. I’m a very detached sort of person, which made it seem even more strange that Aphrodite would be tapping me on the shoulder.

I tried to play it off as my imagination, that I was reading more into things than was really there.

She persisted. She has shown me so many ways the patriarchy is fucking up our relationships and how we keep passing this fuckery on as normal loving behavior.

This is weird for me. I’m the kind of person who gives zero fucks if people like or love me.

Even if I like you, I’m not going to jump through hoops to be your bestie. I won’t call you on the phone. You’ll be lucky if I text you once a year without you texting me first. I don’t want to go shopping. I don’t want to go out for drinks. I don’t want you coming to my house. No matter how much I love you.

So Aphrodite scratching at the inside of my brain about relationship shit, is confusing to me, but she won’t let me go.

I haven’t dated. I’ve been with the same man for over half my life. What the hell do I know about dating? Fuck all. That’s what.

Since I started my research project, I’ve come across some pretty fucked up dating advice in New Age spiritual circles. It’s sexist Pick Up Artist Wank wrapped in crystal moonbeams. I didn’t set out to find relationship stuff, but this shit will not stop finding me.

I’d like to do an experiment around dating, relationships and connecting with awesome people. If you are a single person who is looking for connections or someone who would like to deepen the connections they have, I invite you to come join me around my cauldron.  Email me or hit me up on Facebook.

I can’t say what this experiment will look like, but I truly believe that we can do better than manipulative fuck puppet Pick Up Artists.

 

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