The Love & Light/ New Age community is abusive AF.

Their spaces overflow with Spiritual Bypassing, Female Lifestyle Empowerment Branding (FLEB), thinly veiled abuse.

When I decided to shift directions with my biz after being called to notice how Goddesses had turned into marketing ploys, I asked several groups of women if they had negative experiences within the Love & Light/New Age crowd.

I was shocked to hear how many of them had suffered some form of abuse or felt like they’d been financially ripped off.

The spiritual paths & teachings that were supposed to heal us became twisted tools of further harm. The sacred circles/places just another sanctuary for abusers to hide.

I had pretty much cut myself off from these communities when I was much younger, I didn’t feel comfortable, but I couldn’t pinpoint why. Now that I’m trying ease back into this industry, it’s very clear to me what kind of work I need to be doing.

You deserve better than to be fleeced & shit on in the name of whatever Goddess or God is they’ve decided is cool at the moment.

I’m the sort of person that just can’t sit quietly by when shit like this is going on. I have zero tolerance for fuckery. I’m the kind of woman who makes grown men piss their damn pants. He was shooting his rifle in a very unsafe manor.

I have mastered the art of seeming more dangerous than I am.

I’m not a violent person. I don’t promote violence.

I also have no fucking problem with getting violent when a situation calls for it.

This is what makes me so good at helping other people (mostly women) stand up/speak up/bitch up.

Offerings of Love & Light are sweet, but it takes action to change the world. Love & Light let’s people, who are at a safe distance from the fire, feel like they’re helping out. Like they are good people.

If it doesn’t help?

Well, you weren’t being positive enough. You attracted this with your negative thinking. You need to buy this cleansing spray/incense/crystal and take my special training for the low price of $999. Can’t afford it? You don’t love yourself. 

This is total bullshit and it needs to stop. Let’s start seeing this for what is it, abuse, not spiritual enlightenment.

 

Long weekends kick my ass

It’s been a long weekend. Long in days, four of them, and long in dealing with people.
I don’t really do well with dealing with people too many days in a row. It drains my batteries, even though I have amazing boundaries.
It takes me days more to recharge. It eats into the time I have for doing the things I love, like painting & writing. It makes it harder for me to leave the house the next time I’m required to.
The reason I find these people so draining isn’t because I’m an empath. I’m clairsentient. I’m not absorbing their energy & their feelings.
It’s because I don’t really like people. I hang around people that I’d rather not.
I do energy work on myself to help me get back to feeling myself, but what would be much better is to better manage who I have to spend time with. Sometimes I don’t have much choice.
I do have boundaries set for certain people. I enforce those boundaries. I don’t care if people think I’m a bitch. Good boundaries are good for everyone’s health. It’s not about being selfish or mean.
Managing my energy is something I need to get better at. I spend all winter tucked away at home and forget how much energy work I need to do in the summer.
The first few summer outings always kick my ass because of this.
If you are having a hard time adjusting from winter to summer, there are somethings you (and me) can do to make things go a little easier.
1. Make sure you’re not just hanging out with assholes.
2. Set firm boundaries. Different people may need different boundaries. Make sure everyone has the boundaries they need & knows what your boundaries are.
3. Take a time out. If you need a break from social interactions or obligations, take it. You don’t owe all of your time to other people.
If you are just deciding to do these things for yourself or getting better at doing this for yourself, there will be people who don’t like it.
These people will need more or different boundaries than others. They will push your boundaries. Be firm. Firmness isn’t the same as being mean or a bitch.

New thing happening for my Patreon supporters

Awhile back I myself the Goddess Knowledge Cards. I love the imagery on them.

Starting July first, I’ll be doing a monthly card draw using this deck.

I think it will be a great way to explore different goddesses.

I’m posting these readings to my Patreon page and they will be available exclusively to patrons.

Patreon is a platform creators use to connect with people who want to support their work.

My patrons get first looks at everything I create, special discounts and exclusive offerings. You can become a member of my Patreon for as little as $1 a month.  Think of it like a subscription. A really fucking awesome subscription.

Check it out.

 

WTF Did I Just Read: Love Bites

WTF Did I Just Read is a regular-ish feature all about all the fuckery in romance & erotica fiction. I read this shit so you don’t have to.

 

There is a lot of biting going on in romance/erotica. Mainly in werewolf/vampire stories. It’s not what I would call ‘fun biting’ either. It’s a nip that brands the women in these stories as property of the men.

The idea of being owned as a piece of property is really disturbing to me and not at all romantic or sexy.

The women are usually forced into being bitten/claimed/owned by some life threatening or awful circumstance. She may agree to the biting, but it is a decision made under duress when she is given very little choice.

The men doing the biting are portrayed as the nice/good guy, doing all he can to save the damsel in distress. In many stories the events that lead to the biting are the result of his own actions.

His asshat or careless behavior has contributed to what is going on, but the woman is the paying the price. She is a pawn in whatever family/clan/gang/whatever bullshit he has going on.

These stories reinforce the patriarchal teachings that women are property of men, that we have no choices of our own, that we as ‘good girls’ must let the men handle things in whatever way they see fit.

We are props in their lives. Tools for them to use.

Sometimes, the women choose to be claimed in the heat of passion, usually without a full understanding of what being owned entails. She gives into her bodies desires and forgets to use her brain. We all know that when a hot guy is horny for you, no matter how big of a jerk he is, your body wants him and you have no choice but to go with it. Right?

I don’t know. I’ve never had some supernatural hottie try to bang me.

Really this is another sneaky way we are taught to not listen to our better judgment. If a man is good looking, how big of an asshole he is doesn’t matter. Maybe there is something ‘wrong’ with the woman. Like she is ‘curvy’. If you are anything other than the standard of perfection, you should be thankful that this totally fly jack wagon is paying any attention to you at all.

Fuck me. Who is writing this shit and why are we so eager to devour it?

Our idea of romantic and sexy is twisted. I’m not talking about people who love being bitten or the ones doing the biting during sex. The biting going on in these stories isn’t about pleasure. It’s about keeping women in their place.

It’s fantasy being used to keep us chained to a reality where women are disposable pieces of property.

Rame: Abstract Print

 

Rame means, something that is both chaotic and joyful at the same time.

The e should have one of those little lines above it, but I haven’t figured out how to do that. (Post in the comments if you do.) (seriously.)

This is a shot of a section of one of the pink acrylic pours I did. It reminds me of some sort of tissue sample.

Professionally printed & shipped to you by the printer.