It’s been a long weekend. Long in days, four of them, and long in dealing with people.
I don’t really do well with dealing with people too many days in a row. It drains my batteries, even though I have amazing boundaries.
It takes me days more to recharge. It eats into the time I have for doing the things I love, like painting & writing. It makes it harder for me to leave the house the next time I’m required to.
The reason I find these people so draining isn’t because I’m an empath. I’m clairsentient. I’m not absorbing their energy & their feelings.
It’s because I don’t really like people. I hang around people that I’d rather not.
I do energy work on myself to help me get back to feeling myself, but what would be much better is to better manage who I have to spend time with. Sometimes I don’t have much choice.
I do have boundaries set for certain people. I enforce those boundaries. I don’t care if people think I’m a bitch. Good boundaries are good for everyone’s health. It’s not about being selfish or mean.
Managing my energy is something I need to get better at. I spend all winter tucked away at home and forget how much energy work I need to do in the summer.
The first few summer outings always kick my ass because of this.
If you are having a hard time adjusting from winter to summer, there are somethings you (and me) can do to make things go a little easier.
1. Make sure you’re not just hanging out with assholes.
2. Set firm boundaries. Different people may need different boundaries. Make sure everyone has the boundaries they need & knows what your boundaries are.
3. Take a time out. If you need a break from social interactions or obligations, take it. You don’t owe all of your time to other people.
If you are just deciding to do these things for yourself or getting better at doing this for yourself, there will be people who don’t like it.
These people will need more or different boundaries than others. They will push your boundaries. Be firm. Firmness isn’t the same as being mean or a bitch.