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Empath? Clairsentient?

There is some confusion about what Clairsentience is and what an Empath is. This is because the two things are closely related, overlapping in many ways, and because of New Age Wank.

I am clairsentient. I’m not an empath. I sense energy. It allows me to intuitively ‘know’ a person or if place has bad vibes. While I can tell how someone is feeling and have empathy for them, I don’t take on their feelings as my own. I can tell what emotions are mine.

Some people are more sensitive and can internalize other people’s shit without realizing that is what is happening.

They drink it in until they drown, believing it is the normal way for them to be in the world, that it’s good or their calling/job. New Age Wank supports this belief, especially in women. Emotional & mental labor. 

I believe we all need to take care & responsibility of our energies, do groundings and clearings, be aware if what we are feeling belongs to us or to someone/thing else.

People who are clairsentient or an empath:

Are tuned into the emotions & energy fields of others.

Can sense the energy of objects and places.

Can have gut reactions to things & may or may not be immediately clear on why.

Can be easily overwhelmed by crowds, violent situations (even if it’s just a picture or a story) and situations that require emotional & mental labor.

Where’s the wank?

In people & teachings that use being an empath as an excuse to be a manipulative ass or to not deal with their own shit.

I’m an empath, I know what you are feeling better than you do. I see clearly where you don’t.

Creating endless drama & lack of responsibility for one’s own actions.

It’s ok to be sad when someone else is sad. It’s another thing to wrap yourself into so completely that you lose yourself. Or to use their sadness as a weapon against them.

I think many people who believe they are empaths are really clairsentient and not dealing with things well or are neither and are abusive. (This can be purposeful abuse or unintentional because they are unaware that what they are doing is abuse.) Either way there is a lot of healing that needs doing.

I know all the cool kids are doing it. Everybody thinks they are Deanna Troi.

We are not all Deanna Troi. Sad I know.

If you pick up some wonky energy, clear it away.

If someone’s energy triggers something in you it’s a signal that there is healing needed done there or that you need to be on your guard around that person.

You can be supportive of others without taking on their fuckery as your own.

If someone tells you they are an empath then tries to manipulate or gaslight or make you responsible for their shit, cut them off from your energy and set clear boundaries for that person.

Let them know what your boundaries are and stick to them. Get them out of your life if possible. If not possible, limit their access to you. Do energetic cord cuttings after every encounter with them. Shield your energy before interacting them.

I get that it can be hard to do. It might go against Love & Light Wank you’ve taught, but there is nothing loving in allowing others to harm you. It’s not showing them love and it’s not showing yourself love.

Let me repeat that, there is nothing loving in allowing others to harm you.

 

 

 

 

 

People are batteries too and all the things that drain batteries at the same time.

Long weekends and spending too much time with too many people leave me feeling like a dead battery. Like the one my car had this weekend.

Being clairsentient makes it difficult for me to be around certain people, places or things.

Toss in a holiday weekend and a husband that is a social butterfly and I’m doomed to days of sleeping, headaches and struggling just to get out of bed.

Normally I don’t have to deal with draining people. I’m very protective of my space and have some very hermit like tendencies. Over the last 21 years of marriage, I’ve convinced him it’s better not to have people over to the house for any reason. Some people I can handle. Some people I don’t want anywhere near me or my kids. He has some problems with this because he likes everyone.

Having clear boundaries around people in my life makes me seem like a total bitch.

As women we are supposed to be open to everyone, make space for everyone, put everyone before ourselves. I don’t do that. People don’t like me. I’m totally OK with that. The only problem I have is my inability to explain things to my husband in a way that he understands that my boundaries are about my health and well being, not me just being a total asshole to people.

I’m not here to make people like me or to feel comfortable (not to be confused with giving comfort). Keeping my boundaries is very important, energetically, physically and emotionally. It’s important for all of us, not just those of us that are extra sensitive to such things.

I’m not perfect at dealing with people.  I trust my intuition completely when it comes to people. If someone is giving me red flags, I will automatically set extra bounderies for them and make it clear they have no business being in my space. Total bitch, remember?

There are things that I need to do to recover from too much time being spent with my switch in the On position.

1. Limit human contact as much as possible. Even if it’s only for a 5 or 10 minutes at at time.

2. Get outside.

3. Take a long shower or bath.

4. Sit alone in the dark.

With each of these things it’s important to ground myself, connect with divine/universal energy to recharge and clear away any muck I might have picked up.

You might find other things that work better for you. Test out different things until you find what works for you.

My biggest regret is not explaining things well to my husband. That is something I need to work on. Part of having effective boundaries is helping the people around you know and understand them.

When you are clear on your boundaries it cuts down on misunderstands, feeling threatened and needing defend yourself. Which will fry your energy.

Clear maintained boundaries are good for you and the people around you.